Positive Post #16

February 18, 2018


The Search for Happiness is Overrated. 

I know, what does that title have to do with a positive post? I mean happiness is what we are all supposed to strive to have consistently and constantly. Right?

No. Really, no.

That is my opinion really, not based on any scientific analysis, reports, or findings. Not based on info found in medical journals, psychological journals, or such.

It is based on my personal experience and yours may indeed differ from mine, in fact, it probably does. Which is perfectly okay.

Happiness is subjective to the person who is feeling, or not feeling, it.  It is something that we often seek without finding or seek in an unending quest for the elusive happiness thing.

The question then becomes why? Why search at all if it so elusive?

I say  – “Quit searching!”

The search for happiness is or can be, stressful. So just let go of the need to find it, this happiness thing.

Seriously. Stop now, today, tonight, right now.

Stop searching for it and start feeling it in the moment you are in right now

Impossible? Maybe.

At first, it could very well be impossible. Afterall I do not know your current life situation or anything you have gone through up to this point in your life.

But for right now, in this moment, stop searching. Relax. Allow yourself to just be.

Just be however you are right now. Breathe in, breathe out, and allow yourself the comfort of just being who you are at this moment in time.

Your comfort is a source of happiness. Not just physical comfort but spiritual and emotional comfort are also forms of happiness.

Happiness is also felt at different levels by everyone. Everyone feel happiness in differing doses or level.

Whatever your level of happiness right now is exactly what it needs to be right now, for you.

You don’t have to be amped up on happiness all of the time. Allow yourself to feel the different levels of happiness throughout the days, weeks, months, and years.

Allow yourself too, the quiet happiness of no longer searching for constant happiness.

Thank you for reading.

P.S. If you are so inclined I’d like to read your thoughts about happiness. Drop a line or two or three in the comments section.

Have a great night.


Monday Morning Meandering

Happy Monday and Good Morning!

First of all I want to start out sating ‘Good Morning!” again. 🙂

Second of all I would like to tell you about a little positive thinking experiment I have been doing for a week. Starting off with a little background info that led to the experiment.

I had found myself becoming mired down in the murky-mucky of negativity. I started to feel overwhelmed with all of the things that I needed to accomplish. Not just the daily activities of cleaning the house but also looking at the things I needed to accomplish as a writer, mother,  crafter of jewelry, and photographer. I also needed to go through all of the boxes that I recently brought home from the storage unit that I had for a year. Those boxes are dusty and kind of stink from that dust.

I saw all of these things to do as one huge task and I started to feel as if it were physically weighing me down. I didn’t like it at all, no not one bit. All of this crap, all of this ….


I felt the negative energy filling up my body and it colored the way I looked at everyday life. I started to not like anything. Even the smallest thing to do felt like a mountain. I was completely overwhelmed with life, that was how I felt. All I wanted to do was find a cave to go into so I could hide. I became depressed, irritable , and bitchy towards everyone and everything. Then I was irritable towards myself for being irritable towards everyone else. A cycle of negativity was born.

I didn’t like it but I didn’t feel like I could change anything for the better so I just gave in to it. I allowed that negativity to take over and control how I saw things and how I reacted to things. I had been fighting it for a while now and it actually felt good to just let It win. Not the best choice for a happy life but it was what I had chosen.

Lately it started to get worse. I didn’t like it anymore, I wanted something different. I wanted to change. I didn’t know how. I’d forgotten how to let it go and be happy again.

I started reading a book titled “When You’re Falling Dive” by Cheri Huber.  A good friend of mine recommended it to me. As I was reading it, the words began to take hold in my subconsciousness. I agreed with the words and feeling of what I was reading but still didn’t know how to get it going inside of me. What I didn’t realize at the time was that it was taking root. I just needed to feed the ideas so that they would grow. A few couple of weeks went past.

Then, and I don’t know exactly when but I know it was in the middle of the night, I had an epiphany of sorts. I knew that I could go on feeling weighed down, exhausted, crappy, disgusted with life and everything in it, or I could consciously change that mode of thinking.

So I changed the thinking thing.

It was as if I flipped a switch and changed my point of view about what I was doing and how I was reacting to life. It wasn’t easy for me and I actually argued with myself about the pros and cons of even attempting this changing thinking thing. So I made a deal with myself about it.

I would, for one week, wake up every morning thinking that it was a good day regardless of how I physically felt or what was going on around me. I repeated this to myself through out the day. It was weird at first, but as the first day became the second, then the third, and so on…

I remembered something.

I remembered how good it felt to feel good.

For too long now I had chosen (for one reason or another), to allow the negativity around me to infect me. It did feel like an infection too. I felt tired, worn out, like I was coming down with a cold when really it was only the typical allergies thing. I could see then, just how much I had allowed the negativity to seep into every space in my being.

I didn’t berate myself for feeling negative, I actually felt thankful for the opportunity to re-learn how good it feels to feel good.

After a solid week of doing this positive thinking in the morning thing, I feel good and I’m sticking with it.

I know that I may slip back into the negative pool of sludge that is still hanging around waiting for me, but at least now I know how to pull myself out of it.

Have a Great day, or not, the choice is yours. 🙂

P.S. I still need to go through the stinky old boxes, but I don’t feel overwhelmed by the task. I’m thinking of how good it will feel to have gone through all of them. I’ll either donate, toss out, or sell at a yard sale the physical items that no longer serve a useful purpose in my life.

Simple Things = Happiness and Freedom

My son bought a bike on Wednesday.

Simple sentence.

Simple thing to do, nothing complicated about buying a bike.

And yet,

It brought about feelings of happiness and freedom.

Rather the freedom that my son now has, brought about the feelings of happiness in him. I know and he does too, that the act of buying is not what made him happy. It’s the freedom he is now experiencing.

Where as before he had to walk to the local stores and he felt limited by not being able to go further than a few blocks from his apartment. The bike enables him to experience more, and he is excited about “getting out into the world” as he put it. 🙂

He doesn’t have cable television, internet, a game system, or his own computer. He does have more freedom to explore.

Watching him experiencing happiness is also such a simple thing.

But seeing that brought great joy to this mother’s heart.

Have a wonderful weekend and find happiness in the simple things in your life. 🙂

Relationships …For Instance.

What..Me Conform??


The above word is akin to a curse/cuss/swear word. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth. And it makes my skin crawl. My brain screams NOOO!!!!!!!! And then I run into the night never to be seen again. (okay so that was a little dramatic, but you get my point. I hope)

Yes all of that because of one word.

I don’t conform … much. I can’t conform to certain rules and still retain a sense of my self.

The biggest thing I don’t conform to is what I’m supposed to do or be, according to society.

Relationships for instance.

Society says that I’m supposed to find One special person and fall in love and then get married and be with that One person forever.


I don’t buy into that particular fable/fairytale. I can’t. Not gonna happen. And as far

I suppose if that’s what you really desire in a relationship then go for it but don’t impose that idea(l) onto everyone else around you. Happiness has many different definitions or paths.

I think that if society at large would relax it’s strangle hold on what defines relationships, then more people would find their happy places and live better, happier, more balanced lives.

Cannot Roll Over

It’s not in my genetic coding to just roll over and let other people tell me how to live my life. My motto is: If you’re not bringing harm to yourself or to others then the what the frog is the issue?

Seriously people. Let go of preconceived notions about what should be and just relax in the flow of what is. I know it’s a difficult thing to adhere to, but you may want to try it could be a good thing.

Hmmm I wonder if that sounded like I was trying to get you to conform to my way  of thinking, because I’m not. i’m just spewing my thoughts on the page again. 🙂

What are your thoughts about happiness?

Find happiness today (if you choose). 

Post quote for the day

If you love chocloate then you’ve probably bought a bag of Dove chocolates. Not only are those little chocolates good in the taste department, but they have little sayings on the wrappers.

I’ve kept some of the wrappers as reminders of good thoughts (and chocolates).

So Starting today I’m going to post one a week. A simple reminder of happiness. 🙂

Today’s wrapper saying quote is –

“Temptation is fun, giving in is even better.”

Have a wonderful weekend. 🙂